(Originally ‘Long Hard Fall’)
When our celebrities, pastors, musicians, leaders, idols let us down, when they mess up, when they’re scandalous, we go into shock. Some people become numb, some in denial, and others get angry.
Whatever the reaction, I can’t help but conclude that the reason we respond so drastically is because of the long drastic fall of the people we look up to.
I repeat. “…look UP to.” Most of the time, we are the ones who put them so high up on the pedestal, not filtering the difference between respect and naivety.
How do we fight the naivety? Have a standard or a measure for values. If your favorite band, celebrity, politician, pastor, or whomever doesn’t hit the mark, measure to the standard and filter out the unnecessary.
As for me, my standard is based on my family upbringing and constant growth in my knowledge of the Bible. The principles line up and make sense to what’s relevant in life.
So when people fall or fail in my personal life or in the public eye, I have a better understanding and empathy. We’re all human, and just because one is in the public eye it doesn’t mean he or she should be condemned faster than the rest of the world. We’ve all fallen short of glory both publicly and privately.
I just thank God for mercy, grace, and second chances and third chances and fourth…and fifth…and sixth…
That’s where the respect comes in: Admitting to wrongs and messing up. It’s called accountability. It saddens me when these people in “high places” have these huge scandals that build up because they let one little white lie snowball into something almost unfixable spilling into the mass media’s pool of vultures. So be sure to have someone who you can go to in order to keep you in check. It preserves your life.
The phrase “nipping it in the bud” comes to mind” in terms of accountability. Stop it before it stops. That’s respect. No naivety. No pedestal. No long hard drastic fall. No disappointment.