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Back to Life

8 Jun

How fickle my heart and how woozy my eyes
I struggle to find any truth in your lies
And now my heart stumbles on things I don’t know
This weakness I feel I must finally show

Awake My Soul – Mumford & Sons

I blame my job.

Lately, focusing on anything creative seems impossible, and it’s downright depressing when I compare my creative output now to how expressive I was during my unemployment stint last year.

It’s a wonderful job though, and I should never complain.

White collar? Yes.

Medical? Yes.

The perks? Goodness!

It’s not like my job is 24/7. I’d say it’s more like 12/6, and it’s hard for me to be intentional with my writing. At the end of my work days, I’m exhausted and just want to numb my brain with TV or online social networks.

So yeah…This two month drought of blogging, writing, and vlogging has been a perpetual guilt trip in my gut for a few reasons.

  1. I feel like I’ve lost “it.” “It” being anything such as profound insight, sound reasoning, or  creative expression.
  2. This leads into a “I have nothing valuable to share so my life must be so…boring” self-evaluation.
  3. Which concludes the overall opinion about myself “The messenger is dead.” Well not dead, probably just sleepy or slothful. No. wait. Here’s one: APATHETIC.

Solution? Awake the messenger, and revitalize him.

But how?

  • Remind him of the things he’s passionate.
  • Tell him to be himself. People will ridicule, disagree, or treasure, but that shouldn’t make him shy away.
  • Also, tell him to surround himself with wise and creative counsel. Prolonged isolation can be dangerous.
  • Sit down and be proactively express.
  • Share this blog post…



Stage Fright: Overcoming (A little goes a long way)

23 Mar

Overcoming “Stage Fright” doesn’t always require drastic leaps of action.  Most times all it takes is one small task for you to get the ball rolling: make a phone call, share your vision with someone who’d support you, ask an honest question for an honest answer, or just write something down.  This creates what most people are scared of: accountability. Don’t let the accountability stop you. Let it fuel you.  This is how potential turns kinetic!  This.Is.Progress.  Believe it or not, people want to see you succeed.   Imagine how much more they’d back you, when honesty is involved in the process. You have value in what you bring. How much are you willing to believe in it so others will too? You can do this.

If you can make it this far, you have already done more than most people.

"Stage Fright" drawn by Randy Robledo

so yeah…

Stage Fright: Me

16 Mar

SO YEAH…These were my initial thoughts that I had written on the subject of Stage Fright when I first sat down to brainstorm about this series. These lines began to surface as I related elements of life and performing. It all somehow came to this. It’s also a look at my thought process.

Thanks to Mike Wofford for producing the track, Ronald Suk for directing, and Janet E. Esposito for writing a life-changing book.

Stage Fright from So Yeah on Vimeo.

The stage is set
People are waiting
Time to be real in a world of actors
Performing life or just passing by
It’s a hyped up show
Anticipation for the sake of passing time
Where are we going with this?
Conversation material to materialize?
Stimulate their senses
Eyes, ears, hear, and mind
Detachment vs Engagement
You vs Them
Who’s your real audience?
Be honest
Premature self-evaluation can kill the sense of passion and basis
Fear: Volunteered or obligated?
Put on the spot
In the spotlight
Step up to the mic
Cheeks red
Skin pale white
Cotton mouth chokehold
A deep breath
For momentum to take flight
You can do this
Prove ‘em wrong
Leave ‘em stunned
The stage is set
This is your life

(to be continued)

Stage Fright: Pressure

5 Mar

During my initial interest and perspectives on stage fright, I wondered what others pictured when they thought of the concept.  My artistic friend, Michea, jumped on the idea and sketched this up.  Allow me to translate some of the components in this depiction of stage fright and its ties with life.

The Spotlight:  Being put on the spot is a situation that many dread. Imagine how many times you had to think about what you would say to someone when they asked “What will you do now?” during a major life transition.  There are numerous figurative and actual symptoms one can have under pressure:

  • Accelerated heart rate
  • Shortness of breath
  • Sweating
  • Trembling or shaking
  • Choked up feeling
  • Dizziness
  • Self-detatchment
  • Confusion or unassuredness

The Judge: Self-judgement can also be called “labeling.”  Criticizing ourselves or others with negative lables like “loser” or “weak” puts us in the position as a judge dropping the gavel on one’s potential, including our own.  Judging also causes us to disqualify any positive accomplishments or qualities that can be offered.

People: ”What will they think of me?” Making assumptions about what people will think of us without actual evidence puts us in the role of fortune-telling. We anticipate that things will actually turn out badly before anything has happened.  Talk about the impact of role-playing! Unfortunately, this leads to negative consequences. We also take peoples’ negative reactions and behaviors very personally.

Opportunity: So where does this leave us? While it is common for most people to not do much because of fear in pursuit of their dreams or goals, there are answers and solutions to help us start making progress in the grand scheme of things.  After being honest about our settings, we can create a new mindset in regards to the Spotlight, the Judge, and the People.  The way we shape and perceive anxiety is what makes the difference in our performance.

IT’S OK TO FEEL ANXIOUS.  It is a part of the experience. One of the first important steps is to accept the anxiety and not be afraid of our fear.  Keep the focus of our purpose and consider the difference we can make as we impact the lives of the people we connect with.  We can think of other times we have been successful, and know that we can be successful again. We are capable, and as we speak the vision the the right people, we’ll build a great support group.

One of my friends said: “This recession is allowing others to depend so much more on each other as we pursue what we really want to do together…” This is a great belief as we truly go after ours despite the different pressures we face.  Let’s do this together.  The stage is set, and the show is ready to start.

-Marlon Reid

PS. For more information on overcoming fear of performing, check out In The SpotLight by Janet E. Esposito M.S.W.

so yeah…

(to be continued)

Stage Fright: The Stage

23 Feb

…many performers face a parallel fear related to the similar issue of being the focus of others’ attention and having their performance evaluated.

Janet E. Esposito author of In The SpotLight

Janet states the obvious, but how often would we admit it so elaborately?

Before getting into any meat of this subject, I want to clarify that when I refer to “performance,” I am referring not only to an actual stage act, but moreover a life act. The parallels between these two acts are significant, and I hope to point them out to ultimately better understand ourselves in each of them.

What first sparked my interest in this subject was when my former employer recently eliminated my job position.  While I empathize with those who lost their jobs along with me, I can say that I was a little less worried than most.  I had nothing definite planned for a career, and I had no idea what I even wanted to do next. All I knew was that I was not only ready to move on but excited as well.  In the pot of mixed emotions, these words would not dissolve: The stage is set.

So it’s on to the next act.

I get stage fright.

I hesitate.

I fear.

Willpower has to overcome.

Though I am not too clear about it, I will admit that I am progressing to my next career and more importantly, my calling.  I often check-in with myself and ask why I’m not more proactive as it seems that my stage is already set.  There are a few reasons.  Before getting into these reasons I want to share what I try I ask myself daily:

  • What do I want to do?
  • Why do I want to do it?
  • How close am I to doing it?
  • What is stopping me today?
  • How will I overcome it today?
  • Am I being honest with myself?

It doesn’t matter where you are in your pursuit of your dreams and goals as long as you’re pressing towards them. Some may believe that the pursuit itself is living the dream.  You may agree with this, or you may not. That is fine.  I just want to point out that if your stage is set, be honest with yourself about where you are in regards to your next act. I, myself, am working on this too. The show must go on, and I want to be included.

so yeah…

To be continued